This curious psychological state, which is sometimes also labelled as a false sense of shame, seems to be one of the most effective causes of blushing. Shyness manifests itself by a lowering of the eyes and looking away, by specific, awkward, contrary and nervous movements of the body and by actually turning red.

Some women though turn red from shyness perhaps a hundred or even a thousand times before they even once turn red because they actually have done something that might be worthy of reproach or for which they ought to be embarrassed.

Shyness depends on sensitivity to the opinion of others, especially in relation to outward appearances. At the same time, it can involve a positive opinion just as easily as a negative one. Other people usually don’t know anything about our conduct or our character and are hardly even interested in it, but they can criticise our outward appearance and frequently do so. For this reason, shy people have a particular tendency to become shy and to turn red when they are in the company of strangers.

The simple awareness that you have a special feature or even that there is just something different about your clothing, or even some kind of insignificant feature of your personal or even facial appearance that could invite criticism, a feature that could easily attract the attention of a stranger, makes an already shy person even more shy to the extent that it is scarcely bearable.

If, however, it is a matter not so much of personal appearance but rather more to do with personal conduct and behaviour, then the shy person becomes even more shy, inhibited and self-conscious in the presence of those people the shy person knows and on whose personal judgement the shy person places a high value. Some people are so sensitive in this respect that they only need to be spoken to for their self-consciousness to rise to the fore and to trigger a light blush.

Disapproval and ridicule more easily trigger shyness and blushing than approval or praise, although these are also very effective at causing some people to turn red.

Conceited people are seldom shy and hardly ever experience any feelings of inferiority as they have such a very high opinion of themselves that they are unable to assume that other people might have a low opinion of them.

However, the reason why proud people in particular should be extremely shy can be put down to the fact that, despite their self-confidence, they place a lot of reliance on the opinion of others even if this is usually in a disparaging way.

Shy and timid people are seldom inhibited in the company of those they trust insofar as they are assured of their good opinion and affection. For example that of a daughter towards her mother.

Shyness or timidity is often associated with fear due to the origins of the words. Despite this, shyness or timidity are not the same as fear. A timid person obviously fears observation or being watched by others. However, it cannot be said that the shy person is afraid of others on a regular basis. He may be as brave as any hero in battle but in smaller matters in the presence of strangers he may be extremely shy and respond with inhibitions.

Just about everyone is extremely nervous and tense and has a touch of stage fright when he or she has to speak for the first time in front of an audience. Most people remain nervous and tense their whole lives. This doesn’t have to be a consequence of shyness but can also arise out of a conscious awareness of the imminent major challenge even if the person feels completely capable of mastering it. Yet despite this, shy people suffer in such situations considerably more than others.

With very young children it is very difficult to distinguish between fear and shyness even though shyness can occur at a very early age. With one of my own children I noted a trace of shyness when she was two years and three months old when I returned from being away from home for a week. Although she didn’t go red, her eyes turned away from me for a few minutes. On other occasions I have seen how shyness and shame can appear in the eyes of young children even before they have developed the ability to blush.

To all intents and purposes, shyness depends on self-esteem (from drawing attention to ourselves). This is why it is also easy to understand that it is very damaging to children if they are ridiculed for their shyness or even punished as the only effect that is achieved by this is that they focus their attention even more on themselves. Nothing can cause more damage to young people in this respect than having their feelings constantly watched and the impression that a merciless observer or audience is permanently staring at their face. In such circumstances they are unable to think of anything other than the fact that they are constantly being watched and can feel nothing except shame and anxiety.

You can learn immediately how to effectively rid yourself of emotional and social inhibitions with the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler.

Removing shyness and blushing with the EL-METHOD

German language version: Schüchternheit und Erröten | Hemmungen auflösen mit der EE-Methode

Blushing is probably the most peculiar and also the most human of all forms of expression. It is known that chimpanzees turn red from passion. However, to make us believe that animals blush just the same as people would require an enormous amount of evidence.

Turning red is a consequence of a rise in blushing from embarrassment (the actual human blushing is a logical consequence of the involuntary relaxing of the small veins under the skin. As a result of this, the very fine capillaries in the skin are so full of blood that they can be seen externally as a more or less intense red colouring of the skin. This process is most likely triggered by stimulation of the vasomotoric centres affected in the brain).

Without doubt a strong quick-tempered type of excitation (such as anger, annoyance or fear) has an effect on the entire bloodstream and also on the heart’s activity. Despite this, however, blushing is not a direct and immediate aftereffect of the heart’s activity or that of the bloodstream.

Turning red cannot be triggered by physical means, like a smile can be triggered by tickling the skin or even crying out in response to pain. It is in the spirit and the mind of a person where blushing is triggered. Blushing is an involuntary process of social and emotional inhibitions. Alone the desire to repress this process is enough to increase the tendency to blush through the simple fact that it focuses attention on the person themselves.

Younger people turn red much more easily, quickly and also more often than older people. Yet very young children do not blush. This is quite surprising as it is well-known that young children – similar to chimpanzees – can turn red in the face when they become emotional. However, this is not blushing in the true sense of the word.

I once received a report about two young girls aged between two and three years who blushed. Similarly, another young child, who was a year older, also always turned red when he was caught out in a mistake.

At an advanced age children blush very easily and often very strongly; the majority respond with inhibitions such as shyness or feelings of inferiority. It appears as though the mental ability in very young children has not yet developed to the extent that they blush the same as adults.

This possibly explains why people with dementia or mental limitations seldom blush although their face may turn red occasionally from happiness or anger.

Women blush much more often than men. It is rare for an older man to turn red. However, it’s not so unusual for older women to blush.

Even those who are blind can go red. Mr R.H. Blair, the principal of Worcester College, says that three of the eight children at his institute who were born blind blush violently and quickly. As Mr Blair states, it is an important part of these children’s education to make them aware that they are being observed by other people. And it is this in particular that makes a tendency to blush very important and encourages it because through this these blind children acquire the habit of focusing attention on their own person.

You can learn immediately how you can effectively stop yourself from blushing with the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler.

Finally free from blushing with the aid of the EL-METHOD

German language version: Das Wesen von Erröten | Hilfe gegen Rot werden

Taking blushing as an example, we want to put it all together in a clear, more easy-to-understand way:

If a person has an emotional blockage in their brain through the repeated repression and avoidance of expression of one and the same emotion, and if the person experiences the same emotion once again in this or that situation or in front of this or that person, then through this the upper intensity limit of this emotion blockage will be exceeded.

Overstepping the upper intensity level for this emotion will now be perceived by the brain as a protection and safety mechanism (an automatic regulating system) and this will then become operative and will discharge the emotional blockage by means of blushing or turning red so that the emotional intensity does not gain further in strength and as a result become a danger to the person’s health. This discharge takes place via the autonomous nervous system. However, by nature this is closely linked to the endocrine gland system. The effect of an automatic emotional discharge therefore makes itself apparent by a simultaneous effect on the nerves and glands.

The effect on the nerves becomes obvious in that the person feels self-conscious and insecure. The effect on the glands is such that hormones enter the bloodstream. The properties of these hormones cause the blood vessels of the face to relax and expand. The blood vessels in the face can then take up more blood, which manifests itself by a feeling of warmth in the face and the face taking on a red colour (becoming red). The emotional blockage is discharged and calmed down in this way. In other words, it is EXPRESSED.

In this way different emotions have different effects once they are discharged from their blocked state. There are emotions (especially those of affection or love, but also those of shame and guilt) whose discharge is the phenomenon of blushing. Other emotions merely discharge as a more or less strong feeling of insecurity or self-consciousness. Whereas there are emotions that cause a sudden outbreak of sweating if they are automatically discharged, and yet others that cause the speech system to fail and cause stammering and stuttering. However, upon the automatic discharge of emotional blockages some form of inhibition phenomena appears, which over time leads to an inferiority complex.

Yet inhibition phenomena are nothing other than a safety valve for blocked emotions, which make sure that emotional blockages cannot become too strong.

You can find out how to rid yourself effectively of excessive facial blushing immediately with the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler.

Rid yourself of excessive facial blushing with the EL-METHOD

German language version: Wie und warum kommt es zum Erröten – Ist es ein Schutzmechanismus?

To achieve a feeling of nonchalance faced with the expectation that you’ll possibly turn red, it’s a big help if you can change your basic attitude.

If you should ever go red, then simply remain relaxed and think positively. Such warmth to the complexion is much more attractive than a pale, white colour.  Many people apply blusher or tan themselves to a reddish brown in order to achieve some colour in their face. Take a laid-back view of it and even be proud of your fresh complexion. You can be sure that even if you turn red, you will not go as completely red as many of those affected seem to think. The people around you will perceive your facial colour as a much paler colour than you might suppose. It is a pleasing colour that many will even envy you for.

With a little courage, you can even go so far as to simply consciously admit your sudden blushing to those around you. Admitting to inhibitions has two special effects:

1. Through this admission, the inhibition immediately becomes weaker because you become mutually more confiding and trusting in those around you and have nothing more to hide. At the same time, most feelings of inferiority also disappear.
2. The people around you will give you their full confidence. You will be completely respected by them. Admitting to our feelings of inferiority gives rise to an effect that cannot be processed by our behavioural control mechanism. In this event it is impossible to make a fool of yourself or to feel like a fool.

Take a lesson from acting and say:

“That you are a little embarrassed or that you often turn red when surprised.  But that it’s also supposed to be good for the circulation.“

“Oh now I’m getting a warm, bright colour in my face. It should stay like this all the time then I wouldn’t need to wear any blusher.“

“Oh, now I’m getting a nice complexion. Perhaps my hair will even start to grow better (again)?“

“I’m very nervous and my whole face is glowing like a Belisha beacon. Could we perhaps open a window?“

In this way, or similarly, you can lay out your honest feelings and play to your audience.

Such honest admissions will cause everyone to respect you. A person will immediately trust in you because you state the truth. Namely the truth that you have turned red.

Your humorous remarks will be viewed by the person you are speaking to as pleasant interaction and at the same time will serve to conquer your own embarrassment.

Only those who try to hide their true feelings, are less than honest or dissimulate, will be immediately and intuitively exposed (without exception!) by those present. There is no possibility of creating any trust in this case, a subconscious distance is created or a secret malicious pleasure may even arise, and there are even those people who will take advantage of this to make fun of the person who is inhibited.

To make it impossible to blush or turn red, the response system that is working at a subconscious level in the background has to be ”reprogrammed“.

When applying the EL-METHOD, the subconsciously functioning control system will adapt to every disruptive factor, or setback in this case, as a side effect, and will always work towards removing the interference as best possible, as here, too, it is always attuned to ensuring happiness.

This occurs through a combination of dynamic autosuggestion + hypnoidal suggestion + the removal of emotional inhibitions, as well as the use of effective expression techniques and valuable help techniques.

You can learn how to effectively overcome and avoid excessive facial blushing immediately with the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler.

Avoid excessive facial blushing with the EL-METHOD

German language version: Zugeben von Erröten oder Rotwerden wirkt enthemmend

As soon as the first signs of your going red start to appear, the worst thing you can do is to use your willpower to fight against turning red.

The law states that the more you try to fight against turning red, the stronger you will start to blush.

However, if you give free rein to the emergence of your inhibition or even consciously try to make your blushing even more obvious, then you will be amazed to note that it is completely impossible to go red or that it immediately becomes weaker.

Try to consciously put yourself in those situations where you would normally turn red. Think in those moments that it is completely irrelevant to you whether or not you go red: Everyone present can easily know that every now and then I turn red, but from now on it doesn’t matter to me at all. Consequently, turning red then becomes impossible. It may be easy to say these sentences but, despite this simple rule, due to the former response system they are not so easy to implement.

It is especially the case with blushing that the person blushing tries with all his might not to turn red. However, with his compulsive desire he achieves exactly the opposite, his emotional inhibitions become stronger and he blushes even more violently. This is a physical law of nature. The more you try to force something, the more you achieve the opposite of what you’re trying to do.

Often attempts are made to hold on tight to successful moments of blushing not occurring and lock them away like jewels in a casket, and the hope is born with “hopefully, hopefully…” that no facial blushing will occur the next time either.

Yet a compulsive desire or non-desire also lies behind this “hopefully”. With the desire that “hopefully I won’t blush!“ you try to inwardly avoid going red at any cost in a possible inhibition situation.

You can learn how to systematically and effectively rid yourself of the automatic compulsion of this unnatural habit and thus avoid your face going red immediately with the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler.

Avoid turning red with the help of the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler

German language version: Die Gesetzmäßigkeiten von Erröten oder Rotwerden

Your face turning red is the result of a behavioural reaction to trying to conceal your emotional inhibitions.

If you want to avoid blushing, it’s best not to try fighting against turning red. If you were to try consciously to blush or to create a similar feeling, you wouldn’t be able to turn red, as our reaction system, or the interlinked system of our body, mind and spirit, which runs in our subconscious, is always directed towards joy and happiness.

It may sound like a paradox but it is a perpetual law of nature:

If you try to achieve something or even if you try not to achieve something by the power of your will and by force, then you always achieve the opposite.

With the help techniques in the EL-METHOD it will be possible to virtually eliminate the automatic compulsion that causes your face to turn red as a matter of course. The key to this are the physical theorems and the practical applications relevant to the subject of “compulsive desire” so that “compulsion” and “absolute desire” can be switched off.

The double effect against facial blushing is the repetition method that is used in the EL-METHOD.

Using theEL-METHOD to free yourself of emotional inhibitions, such as your face going red, shyness and an inferiority complex, is the right way to become a more open, freer person. Why not try it yourself right now?

Stop turning red with the aid of the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler

German language version: Was tun gegen Rotwerden | Erröten vermeiden

A lack of social contact usually occurs if for locational, time or health reasons it is not possible to have any contact either temporarily or even for a long period of time.

However, there are also people who shy away from contact with other people and prefer to remain alone. The reasons for this may be manifold. Some people are more naturally inclined to prefer being on their own.

Whereas others would dearly love to have social contact with others but suffer from a lack of contact or are afraid of contact, because they suffer from emotional and social inhibitions.

Immediate help is available for this!

With the EL-METHOD, you can immediately experience amazing feeling of relief when in just a short space of time you overcome your fear of contact or lack of contact and become a more open, socially inclined and self-confident person.

EL-METHOD | Overcome a fear of contact or lack of contact quickly and easily

Emotional insecurity has many different causes and it is important for each person to identify where their emotional insecurity and self-doubt is coming from. As a general rule, emotional insecurity and fear normally derive from a restricted state of mind. This, in turn, is linked to a feeling of being separated from other people and the feeling of moving around in an environment that is unsafe or even hostile.

Then there are specific reasons for a feeling of anxiety and emotional insecurity. These can be caused by all sorts of difficulties that have often been experienced in the past, starting with your conception or experiences in your childhood, during puberty and in your adult life.

Emotional insecurity in human relations is one of the most widespread emotional inhibitions, which responds to society with a lack of confidence, lack of self-esteem, social awkwardness and self-doubt.

And it’s precisely this that can now be helped!

With the EL-METHOD you can learn immediately how in just 10 weeks you can rid yourself of your emotional insecurity and become a more open, self-assured and self-confident person.

EL-METHOD | Rid yourself of emotional insecurity simply and quickly

A healthy feeling of self-confidence ensures that social inhibitions such as stage fright and other emotional insecurities become weaker. On the other hand, new inhibitions then start to appear again and again, which again weaken the healthy self-confidence. Thus it is now our task to strengthen self-confidence and to weaken stage fright.

There is no better way of doing it than through the conviction that you can reduce your stage fright to a healthy basic level of tension and knowing that this works. Every triumph over the self increases your self-confidence and feelings of self-worth and the next triumph is then easier to reach on account of this. With respect to social inhibitions, all other remaining blocks and barriers then become weaker when we manage to remove one inhibition first of all, such as stage fright or fear of public speaking.

How can I overcome stage fright and all my other inhibitions?

It is usually the case that someone not only has extreme stage fright but also other inhibitions, which also manifest themselves to a greater or lesser degree.

Through the systematic self-expression training with the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler, STRONG EFFECTS are achieved, which not only cause all inhibitions to simultaneously disappear but also systematically increases self-confidence and makes it possible to conduct oneself in a self-assured manner.

Overcoming stage fright with the EL-METHOD

German language version: Mittel, Tipps und Hilfe – Was tun gegen Lampenfieber?

Social and emotional inhibitions are a very prevalent burden affecting a lot of people.

It is particularly those inhibitions such as shyness, bashfulness, self-doubt, lack of confidence, lack of self-esteem, social awkwardness, emotional insecurity and inferiority complexes that prevent people from feeling able to take part in normal society.

When you consider that it is exactly those people who suffer from social and emotional barriers and blocks that have certain special qualities, are rich in knowledge and experience and possess valuable skills, then you can better understand that the human race suffers enormous damage alongside these sufferers.

To achieve success, you have to also make it possible to make use of such knowledge and skills. Out of this, practical opportunities arise that are also of benefit to society. However, making use of these natural opportunities is destined to fail if a person is suffering from emotional and social inhibitions.

No matter how shyness or a lack of confidence manifests itself in any individual, emotional insecurities are always the result of a restrictive upbringing that started in childhood and has persisted until the state it has reached today. These learned emotional blocks arise subconsciously and cause a person to respond with emotional inhibitions such as shyness and an inferiority complex.

What can I do to get over my shyness or my low self-esteem?

First of all, it is a matter of doing away with the emotional blocks and acquiring a response system free of inhibitions.

You can learn now how you can obtain an unrestricted response system and become a more open and self-assured person through the EL-METHOD from Tony Gaschler.

EL-METHOD |  Overcoming shyness and a lack of confidence

German language version: Tipps und Mittel – Was tun gegen Schüchternheit?